know the story

I could feel her looking at me as I stared out the window. She asked the question again and I knew I had to respond. “So you don’t think you’re thin enough to have an eating disorder?” I stared at her defiantly as I replied,”No”. But even as I said those words my voice trembled. Because I knew. I knew I was sick but I just couldn’t admit it. Not to her not to anyone. And the truth was I didn’t see it. When I looked in the mirror I didn’t think I looked thin, I didn’t think I looked like someone with an Eating Disorder. I didn’t think my insides matched my outsides.

I remember the drive to her office, how at every light I wanted to turn my car around. I remember walking up the stairs barely able to breathe and I remember sitting the open lobby waiting for her to come out and signal me back. And as I sat down and we began to talk. I remember wanting to jump up and run out. But I didn’t, I couldn’t leave because even then, even when I didn’t believe it I knew I needed to hear those words.

Three years later I can remember that conversation like it just happened. Those words were such a pivotal point in my recovery and my dietician words that followed forever impacted me. As I sat in her office that day and we talked about how even if I didn’t think I looked the part or believe it, I was sick.

The stronger I become in my recovery the more it impacts me the way we literally look at people with eating disorders (and people in general). I know for myself and many others there was the misconception that if I didn’t look a certain way I didn’t have a problem. I was small. I was thin. I was little but I would have never deemed myself anorexic. Yet I was.

The fact is that eating disorders come all shapes and sizes, they do not discriminate. No matter how much someone doesn’t believe they fit into a certain category because of the way they look. Size is not the determining factor in an eating disorder. Frankly for many years I “looked” healthy. I wasn’t what someone would consider too thin or too large. I was just average. However, even in my average days I was so so very sick.

The more I work with women who have struggled with an eating disorder the more that constant fact rings in my head that we cannot judge someone by their outward appearance. We have no idea the thoughts going on in their head. The control or lack of control that dictates their life.

Because here is the thing my friend, eating disorders are so much more than what the public sees. There is hiding. There is deceiving. There are things that go on that you would never know about when you look at their smile, at their darling outfit, at their laughter.

I was the girl who had it all together, who had the world at her finger tips, who truly seemed to be on top of the world. But I was sick. I was struggling. I was so desperate for help. But had you seen me, you would have never known.

You may have seen me comment on food. You may have seen me be a “picky eater”. You may have even see me count calories or exercise to the point of exhaustion. But you thought nothing of it, because in today’s society, talking negatively about our body or food is acceptable. You may have thought nothing of it because you too have those behaviors.

As a woman in today’s world, we are taught to care so deeply about what our outsides look like. We are taught to be put together. We are taught to look presentable even “pretty”. We are told to act as if all is okay. Here is the thing though, often times it is not okay. We struggle, we hurt, we often need help and sometimes we need to show that on the outside but we feel like we can’t. Many times the insides don’t match the outsides.

So my hope is this, that the next time we look at someone’s outward appearance we wouldn’t assume they have it all together. We wouldn’t assume that they don’t need help. We wouldn’t assume that they aren’t sick. While this so very much applies to eating disorders I believe it applies to so many other aspects of our lives as well. May we not judge the book by it’s cover but may we learn to read the book and know the story by heart.


Martha Kate Stainsby is an eating disorder survivor and advocate. She spends most of her time in Waco, Texas where she lives with her husband Brett and works with college students for the ministry RUF. A Native Texan, she graduated from Texas Christian University where she earned a B.A. in English. When not working with college women, she spends her time sharing her story of grace, through various speaking and writing opportunities in order to build awareness of eating disorders and the hope found in recovery. MK loves people, diet coke, anything that sparkles, and a monogram on everything. Find out more about Martha Kate’s journey here:http://leavingperfectionlearninggrace.com

the dazzle and the dark

One of my favorite Mary Oliver poems says, “Still, what I want in my life is to be willing to be dazzled— to cast aside the weight of facts and maybe even to float a little above this difficult world.”

The will to be dazzled? Now that is an interesting concept. 

Let’s admit it, we all dream about being dazzled. We dream about quitting the jobs that pay our bills but hurt our feet, packing a bag, a camera, and sailing off to some European town where we drink tiny cappuccinos every morning. We take pictures of the sunset or pretty flowers at our feet, and we are, for a moment, dazzled. 

Maybe the dazzle is something else for you - maybe it’s being respected on social media for your art, position in the community, and passion. You want people to look at your Instagram feed, meticulously kept with only the best, polished bits of your life, and be interested or inspired. There is a need to be accepted, desired, but it exhausts you trying to keep up with your peers or please your mother-in-law. You can’t afford to look like a Bohemian princess or your favorite fashion blogger, and it weighs on you. But you think these are the things that will delight you and bring your life that magic spark.

I can’t speak for Mary Oliver on what her idea of being “dazzled” was, but I can tell you, it is not worldly. It is not found by keeping up with The Joneses, and sometimes, it isn’t the beauty of nature or our fairytale daydreams that do it either. It’s the things that are hard to deal with, the darkness that looms over us, and the realization that we can overcome it. 

At 25 years old, I often find that when I am alone, deep in thought, or when I close my eyes to go “to another place,” I don’t always see sunshine and rainbows. I don’t see my future wedding day, a couple embracing each other in dreamy light. I see the corner of my dark closet, my arms linked tightly around my knees, head down, hiding from everyone around me. For years this has been my “place,” because I worked too hard to be liked or wanted, and I could not let people see that I was exhausted playing the game. I couldn’t dream because I was too busy pretending to be living it.

But, I let it go. When I go to that dark place sometimes and feel vulnerable or overwhelmed, I cry a little bit, smile, and say, “I’m ready to do something.” And that “something” that often comes from the rut of despair is what dazzles me. It gives me strength to pursue the true passions of my heart rather than try to impress. 

Following your dreams takes a leap of faith. It’s jumping off the cliff and building your wings on the way down (as told to me by my best partner in crime). Since I graduated college, I have had the amazing opportunity to travel more and pursue entrepreneurship, but it isn’t as glamorous as it appears. Living the “Hollywood dream,” as people say I live, takes guts, and a little jab to the ol’ pride to accept help. It takes saying no to going out with friends every night or buying new clothes for every occasion (which I still struggle with). It takes never knowing exactly when the next paycheck will be. It’s a risk. And I pray that even if I don’t find success, I find the reward in being myself. 

So I urge you, White Buffaloes, to find that dazzle in yourself, and learn how to balance what is good and pretty about your life with the darkness that is often kept in secret. Do not look at the world around you and mistake it for a mirror. You are an intricately designed work of pure love and wild imagination. You have similar qualities, interests, and style as x amount of women in the world, but you are the only you on this planet. Let yourself be in that dark place sometimes and KNOW, “I am about to really shine.”


Words by Kaye Askins

how to live (with yourself)

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Freedom. Everyone’s definition of freedom is different. For someone it might mean powering those electronic devices down and enjoying a warm walk with friends at sunset. Or maybe it’s finally having time to turn that poem you carry around on a stained napkin into a full-length song. Maybe it’s getting in a car with your favorite tunes and just driving. Maybe it’s treating yourself to that cheesecake you’ve been craving. Or maybe it’s doing yoga with your bunny. 

In reality, freedom can be a very beautiful thing to have. However, due to the unpredictable nature of life we don’t always have the opportunity to free ourselves from, well, reality. But I am not here to tell you whether or not you should take that trip to SXSW that you’ve always dreamed of (which, you totally should). I’m here to tell you that there is a different kind of freedom that every person- every woman-desperately needs. That is, my beautiful buffaloes, freedom from yourself. 

Yes, you read right. In every woman’s head is a tiny voice that can spew some pretty unimaginable insults. It does not matter where you are or what you are doing, that voice comes at you unexpectedly. And it seeks to destroy. It may appear while you are about to go into a job interview. Suddenly you don’t feel prepared and are doubting yourself. “I am never going to get this. I’m not qualified. I do not have enough experience,” your little voice says. The most common place this voice appears in is in front of the mirror. I have a friend that used to purposely avoid mirrors because she did not want to ‘be reminded of how much beauty she lacked.’  I am guilty of it, too. Just last week, I did not attend an event because I “looked disgusting.” Why do we listen to this voice in our head that only says the worst about us? Why do we seek perfection in ourselves when we know that we are only human? The answers to these questions vary. But instead of focusing on why, let us stop this cycle of self-loathing. 

It’s time to free ourselves from that harsh voice. Here are a few tips on how to do that:

1. Meditate

Go to a quiet space, and reflect on the things that you do have. The mere ability to wake up is a blessing! 

2. Make a List

List all of the things you love about yourself and your life. There’s no length requirement or limit. Make it on a post-it, and leave it on your fridge or blow it up into a poster and hang it up over your bed. Keep it as a daily reminder of who you are and why that’s more than good enough!

3. Go Outside

Sometimes all we need is some fresh air and nature to remind us of how vast and beautiful this world is. There is no place for our insecurities in this universe full of possibilities. 

4. Listen to some music. 

Sometimes hearing “Girls! We run the world” over and over is the exact motivation you need to, well, run the world. Whether you are singing along to Beyoncé, Lykke Li, the local radio station, or writing your own tunes remember to do it at the top of your lungs.

5. Stop comparing.

Ladies, I cannot stress this enough. Just be YOU. Do not compare yourself to others. Make your own success. Make your own happiness. You didn’t get the job you wanted? So what! There are bigger things out there for you. Keep searching. You don’t have as many followers as your new BFF? Remember, it’s not about quantity but quality. You’ll get there, I promise. Do not spend all of your energy loathing yourself because it will lead to nothing. For example, I could sit in my room all day browsing through the Instagram feeds of photographers with way more experience than me and cry. But at the end of the day I will have only wasted time. Instead, I could go out on my balcony and practice my skills by photographing the trees, birds, or even my shoes. At the end of the day, I will have learned something new and have better photos to add to my own feed. 

So whaddya say, buffaloes? The bad days and thoughts will come, but we can do this! Free yourself from your past, from your critics, from that little voice of doubt in your head. Be human. Be happy. Be you. 


Words and Photos by Janai Cantua Villarreal

the art of imperfection

Here at White Buffalo we talk a lot about being brave. But the truth is, chasing your dreams can be scary. Creating can be scary - so scary, in fact, that we often quit before we ever begin. We start with grandiose dreams and mega-inspiration, but soon doubt creeps in. Sometimes the reality doesn't quite live up to the vision in our heads. 

And since we are often our own worst critics, we see every imperfection - be it in our art, or in our life. We see every opportunity for something to be done just a little bit better. 

Maybe we should have a bit more compassion with ourselves. Maybe we should learn to embrace the imperfections in life. One fabulous lady who has chosen to find beauty in the imperfections, both in life and in art, is Jewelry Designer and fellow White Buffalo Lindsey Adams Williams. 


1.            Tell us a little about yourself, however you feel best suites you.

When I was little I would introduce myself as Lindsey Allison Wonderland. I sometimes wish I could still do that. But now I am mostly just, Lindsey. I have a cat named Megatron, a husband named Jarrod, and live in Dallas. I strive most in life to be loving and compassionate. My biggest desire is to be wise.

 

2.            Tell us a little about LAW Designs.

I have always wanted to create something that was naturally beautiful. I searched for a long time to find something creative that I enjoyed doing and had a knack for. That was difficult, and expensive. What I came down to was that I am good with my hands, but no matter what I created, it would never be perfect. So here I am — the founder of a jewelry line.

 

3.            What inspired you to create your own line?

My mom taught how to dress. Debs would tell me that a few basic dresses and some killer jeans were the blank canvas. The fun and unique part was accessorizing. She has always collected sweaters, scarves, and jewelry. So I guess that is who I have become, as well. I have always loved jewelry and had a vision for the pieces I wanted to find. Instead of continuing my search, I decided to create my own line.

 

4.            What was one of the biggest challenges and how do you/did you overcome it?

The biggest challenge I am currently experiencing is having a lack of time. I am constantly traveling and working late nights. I am used to long hours — but it can be really hard to be creative when you are on empty. So I have to really dig deep and push myself to “go there” even when I have nothing left at the end of the day. I think it has made me value this opportunity even more. When something is really hard the victories mean so much more.

5.            What practical tips would you give someone who wanted to launch their own brand?

Establish your support system. Whether it is a single person or a small community, figure it out. But most importantly, you need someone who will push you and remind you why you started your brand in the first place. Especially when your tank is on zero and you feel like giving up because you are tired or made a mistake.

 

6.            What inspires you?

People who are better than me at what I do. At first, it can be incredibly discouraging, but ultimately it makes me better. As weird as it may sound, I like to be uncomfortable in my work life. I think to be uncomfortable means to not be an expert. When you are not an expert you are constantly pushing yourself to become one. The expert is who inspires me to be better, stronger, and more knowledgeable.

 

7.            What are your favorite influences?

Older women with gray hair and timeless class. Super models and celebs have it easy. They have cameras following them around everywhere they go and have an army getting them dressed. They better look fantastic. When you are old and gray, it is probably just you pulling on your panty hose, strapping on your spanks, and stacking on your bangles. The army is gone and with it so often departs the effort and desire to look fabulous. My grandmother is 94 and doesn’t go a day or minute without red lipstick, red nails, and a styled outfit. Women that are gray, wrinkled and rocking it have the biggest impact on me.

 

8.            When you are not working or creating jewelry where can we find you?

I am pretty stinking blessed with having the best job ever. I work for an International Events Agency called First Protocol. Being an Event Planner is not all fun and games, it’s tough work, long hours, and lots of travel. But when you work for a company who values you and pours into you, it is easy to get excited about going into the office every day.

9.            What is something you can’t live without?

Sleep. It’s simple. I really need a solid 7 hours a night. When I get really exhausted I cry. I cry at everything anyway — my nephew opening his Christmas presents, the end of X-Men (not even a sad movie), during every commercial about the military… ever, a handwritten thank you card — it really doesn’t take a lot to get me going. Add some sleepless nights in there and you can call me Waterworks.


10.          Additional inspo:

When I was young my mom would rip the erasers off of my pencils. She said that the beauty of a piece of art could be secretly found in the imperfections. Debs would tell me that it said something about the artist when they would leave their mistakes, or imperfections, for the world to see. “That is the hardest part of being an artist,” she would tell me. “To leave your mistakes is to bear your soul and to let the world see you for who you really are. But that is also what will make you truly great.” I guess that is who I have always wanted to be — a great artist with the courage to bear my imperfections.


Thank you Lindsey for sharing your beauty and your imperfections with us - may we all be brave enough to embrace our imperfections and compassionate enough to see the beauty in them.

For more about Lindsey or to shop the lovely jewelry that captures this message, visit LAW Designs

Photos by Kendall Hanna

makers & shakers event recap

Our big event this month was the Makers & Shakers gathering at Saint Cloud Boutique, a beautifully curated small shop in Rice Village. Jessica and Cecilia of Saint Cloud opened their doors to a number of other women business owners, in true White Buffalo Fashion, so Houston ladies could gather together for some shopping and socializing.

Trang Nguyen of Myth and Symbol, another women’s boutique nearby, brought over some goodies including adorable sheer socks by Hansel from Basel and a lavender +  clary sage scented hair powder by Lulu Organics (which, by the way, was heavenly on day 2 of Free Press!).

The Saint Cloud Boutique holds an array of lovely accessories as well, but that didn’t stop them from making space for Anna Wilson of Manoosh to display her one-of-a-kind scarves.

Delicious hors d'oeuvres were provided by the talented ladies of Events by Momo, while Robin Berwick of Double Trouble Caffeine and Cocktails served cocktails. And what would a White Buffalo event be without dessert from Tout Suite?

Yet, what actually occurred on Thursday night was more than just women gathering for some shopping and socializing. Let’s face it, that’s pretty easy to do right? 

The magic behind the Makers & Shakers event occurred because women business owners got together and decided to share their space and their work with one another. They chose to encourage and support one another rather than compete.

The guests arrived with that same spirit, ready to support one another, to encourage one another, and mostly, to enjoy one another. The magic happened in the conversations, in the moments where women who didn’t know anyone decided to bravely walk up to strangers and introduce themselves, and in the moments where women were open and accepting of one another. Looking around at all of the women gathered at Saint Cloud on Thursday I thought, How beautiful. I want more of this, more of White Buffalo.

By Tamara Romaguera

Photos by Kendall Hanna, Saint Cloud Boutique, Tamara Romaguera and Megan Siân John. For more check out the #MakersandShakers on Instagram!

#WBPBookClub june selection

A White Buffalo Project lady is a smart sort of girl who always has a book on her bedside table. So we figured it was about time we all read a book together, and then join up to chat about it. And we're hoping you'll want to join us!

For the very first month of the WBP Book Club, we're diving into Reading Lolita in Tehran by Azar Nafisi.

Reading Lolita

Heralded as one of the best "books about reading books," Reading Lolita in Tehran shares Nafisi's tale of encouraging women to pursue passion and knowledge, no matter the obstacles that stand in their way. The story follows Nafisi as she gathers some of her most promising female students from an Islamic university where she teaches to read Western literature together and take off their veils, both metaphorically and literally. This is a story of hope and courage in the face of imminent danger and a praise of literature and the inherent power of words.

Join us as we read along! We'll be chatting about the book in our Facebook group, as well as at our first #WBPBookClub meeting on June 30 (details TBA). 

Can't wait to read with you!

makers + shakers houston

White Buffalo Project has partnered with the amazing crew at Saint Cloud for a gathering not to be missed. We love celebrating women who do awesome things throughout our city and beyond, and this is our chance to show to you some of the best and brightest.

A bunch of women in the Houston community have decided it's about time to come together in support of each other's businesses. And that calls for some food and cocktails, don't you think? Meet some of our phenomenal partners for this event!

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Southern hospitality does exists within the Houston retail community. All the small shops support one another and help each other out. We’re all learning from one another everyday.” -Trang Nguyen of Myth and Symbol, a women’s lifestyle boutique in the Rice Village

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“GO. Start yesterday. The sacrifices are painful but the experience is worth it, even if you fail at first. You're young and have so much time for your naivete to be forgiven!” -Robin Berwick of Double Trouble Caffeine and Cocktails

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“Nothing ever goes as planned. Now, I know what you’re thinking, and sure this is common knowledge and shouldn’t be surprising, but let me explain… Nothing. Ever. Goes. As. Planned. After being continually caught off-guard when problems arise, I’ve learned to go about my day as if I’m a Stark and George R. R. Martin is in control of the script.”  -Anna Wilson of Manoosh, an accessories brand that partners with local artists to create wearable art

“I find that I surround myself with women that have similar qualities in that they are very focused and passionate, well rounded and down to earth. There's nothing more inspiring than knowing a successful woman who is willing to lend real advice and experience to new entrepreneurs.” -Moon of Events by Momo, a full service events and catering company

I have always been drawn to women that are mentally and emotionally strong, and to those who are mindful and understand that they can and do make an impact on the people around them. I find inspiration in their drive and passion.” -Claire of Events by Momo

“Happiness is inspiring, I am inspired by any and all women who are pursuing their true happiness…it’s harder than it sounds!” -Jessica Rodriguez of Saint Cloud, an accessories and home goods store in Houston

“Trust your gut.  If something feels 'off' to you about a situation or opportunity, then it probably is. Be fearless, but listen to your inner voice because it will never steer you wrong.  I think back on all the times when I pursued something even when it felt not quite right vs. the times an opportunity fell perfectly into place and I am grateful that I learned early on to trust my instincts.” -Cecilia Marquez of Saint Cloud

 

Desserts will be generously provided by Tout Suite.

These phenomenal ladies, alongside the White Buffalo Project and Saint Cloud, are so excited to hang out with you on June 4 from 6-9pm. Check out the FB invite for more information!

keep dreaming

What did you dream of when you were a little girl? Did you dream of being a princess? Did you dream of being a doctor? Did you dream of being a mother, an artist, an astro-physicist?

Whatever you dreamt of - and let’s just go ahead and acknowledge right now that not a single one of these dreams is silly or shallow, better or worse than any other - whatever it was I bet that underneath that dream there was something else. Maybe you knew it and maybe you didn’t, but I bet that in some way you also kind of sort of dreamt of changing the world.

This whole thing started because someone had a dream and then others came along and said, “me too!” So a movement was born, a movement to change the conversation and let that begin to change the culture.

 

I love that word - movement. It has so many meanings and so many uses. Immediately I think of it in terms of music, a progressive development of a piece. It can also refer to the frenetic energy and bustle of a busy place.

Its primary definition, though, is “an act of changing physical location or position.” I almost dismissed that definition and moved on to the second because it wasn’t the type of movement that I was thinking about when I thought about changing the world. But if we look at it again I think there is something significant there.

In order for something to move, it has to change position and location. We can’t stay in the same place forever. We can’t remain in our safe little boxes and expect the world to change. If we want to see that change spread to new cities and beyond, then we have to get up and get moving.

Sure we have to think realistically. We have to start right where we are. But sometimes we have to move to see real change.

Maybe that means you take a leap of faith and move to a new city. Maybe that means you finally stop hiding your heart and pursue your passion. Maybe that means that you move your butt across the street and invite your neighbor who you’ve never spoken to over for coffee and conversation.

 

Typically when we think of a movement we think of the second definition: “a group of people working together to advance their shared political, social, or artistic ideas.” And I think this second definition is so important too.

Look at it again - a group of people, working together.

We have to work together. We have to support each other and encourage each other. We have to make room for everyone to succeed. We have to open our minds and our hearts to what everyone has to offer if we want to change the world. No gift is too small. No talent is unusable.

True change can only be achieved by everyone making an offering of what they have.

Maybe you became a teacher instead of an astro-physicist. Maybe you are still waiting to be a mother. Maybe you are an artist even though you have never actually sold a piece of art. You can still change the world. You are changing the world.

 

So keep dreaming. Keep moving.

 

 

Written by the talented and inspiring Tamara Romaguera

Stunning imagery provided by Joanne Pio

 

 

 

 

kindness is the new black

What I love about Danielle is how stinkin' down to earth she is. It doesn't matter how much recognition (for her bad A photography) she gets, how many times she gets published, or how successful she is, she's still completely humble. Completely down to tell it how it is. 

Something that has been so important to me for White Buffalo Project is the vulnerability. To really celebrate the story of life, instead of hide behind a mask of something else. While trying to curate interviews of women who could really cut the bull, Danielle was an immediate pick. 

Without further ado, I give you Miss Sabol. 


Tell us a little about yourself, however you feel best suites you.

Why are introductions so awkward? I’m Danielle. I’m female. I’m human.

What inspired you to get into photography?/ Create your own business?

Photography came into my life at a time I felt I didn’t have much going for me. I was in the midst of a horrible relationship AND a tumultuous family relationship. I needed an escape from the despair and uncertainty I was feeling. Photography provided me with not only a hobby to get me out of the house, but it gave me the freedom of creative expression, which I considered a type of therapy at the time. It gave me hope.

Somewhere along that messy road I fell in love with shutter clicks and medium format photography. And here I am four years later, in a wonderful romantic relationship, and fabulously mended familial relationship and I’m lucky to be photographing all the things I love.

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What do you think is the most rewarding part of what you do?

I love the idea of encapsulating memories, feelings, and beauty.  Knowing that I could be providing a service that could still be appreciated years from now is a pretty rad concept.

What is the biggest struggle?

Haha, there seems to be a constant flow of little obstacles and struggles. I’d say my biggest struggle is finding ways to deal with the struggles in a mature, professional way.

Being in the creative occupation, with everyone else’s art billboarded in front of you everyday, what do you think is the most difficult thing about being an entrepreneur in your field? 

I know this sentiment has been shared by so many, but it truly is easy to get caught up in the fight to the top. I am obsessed with the future and ‘where I want to be’. I crave progress. I feel like I’m dying if I’m not moving forward and improving. There are times I obsess with curating my ideal self and my ideal life in my head. I'm so focused on the type of human I want to become and what I want to accomplish that I completely discount any current successes and am already fixated on the next goal and I become totally dissatisfied with whatever project I just completed. I sabotage any compliments, ignore any praise, and end up seeming totally ungrateful in the process. It's a daily struggle to enjoy NOW and appreciate my tiny steps I'm making toward my big big dreams. 

What advice would you give someone struggling with the same thing?

I feel like we 90s girls (or most girls) grew up in a time where we were encouraged to belittle ourselves a bit. You know someone says “wow you’re so pretty” and you say “no I’m not, look at this pimple here”. It’s normal to be self-critical about yourself and about your work, but it’s important to accept praise and compliments and (if you don’t already) learn to appreciate yourself the way others do.  Having a strong sense of self worth is so important.

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Why do you think it’s important to slow down? How do you do that?

I feel that without slowing down and briefly disconnecting ourselves from our aspirations, there would be no perspective. Sometimes it takes a ginormous step back to ensure you’re on the right track, that you’re heart’s in the right place, and that you’re making time for those who are supporting you.

I don’t know if I’ve mastered the art of slowing down, but I’m trying.  I usually find that ‘detoxing’ myself from a creative environment helps the most. Social media sabbaticals, football games, walks with my (non-creative) boyfriend, even the mundane task of grocery shopping has been incredibly therapeutic for me!

What does your typical day look like? 

Monday – Friday (9-5 woop woop!) I work for a health and wellness company as their social media manager. It’s a new habit I’m working on, but the moment I leave work I head to the gym for an hour (spin or row), and then I go home to work on my photography business putting together mood boards, scheduling photo sessions, sending off proofs, making dinner with my love, and attempting to catch up on Jon Stewart before I pass out.

What does your perfect day look like?

My perfect day would include a spontaneous car drive with my love to a quiet place where I can eat wine and cheese and be lazy under a warm sun. Of course I’d bring along one or three cameras and a few boxes of film.

What things make you feel alive?

Fresh issues of So It Goes and Porter Magazine in my mailbox, talking to any one of my six little sisters, concert hopping, photo shoots, sour patch kids, baked brie, seeing things for the first time.

What is something someone has told you that was impactful to the way you do life? 

Someone once told me “don’t settle” and I swear if I was into permanence I would get that tattooed on my forehead. Those two little words have carried me again and again.

If you could have any super power, which one would you be and why?

I suppose I would really love to emit laser rays from my fingertips that could instantly make someone full of kindness and accepting of others the way they are.

Any parting words of wisdom?

Kindness is the new black, yo.


You know. You read interviews like this, and it just makes you feel GOOD. Right? To remember that we are all the same. We all struggle. We all succeed. And we all have a unique story. 

Thank you, DS, for getting honest about yours. 

XO, Kendall 

 

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live your passion out loud.

Have you met Kelsey? The beauty + brains + huge heart behind She, in the Making. This woman, from the very first time we met, inspired me by her passion for life. The way that she approaches her every day, through words, photography, and hand lettering is so genuine and uplifting that you can't help but sit back and watch her go. So I asked her to scribble down her thoughts about just that: passion. And what it means for her. 


Passion. You know that stuff that drives us? That thing that makes your heart run a hundred miles a minute? That gives you butterflies and sends you flying high? Yet the same thing that keeps your feet grounded and your head in the books? Passion. The very thing that can drive you insane and at the same time make you just crazy enough to take that leap. To jump in that car, to move across the country, to quit your job, to start that business. Passion. The thing that makes time stop, while you glance back at the clock and realize you've given everything you have to this one thing for hours on end. And you haven't the slightest regret. Passion. The moment you find yourself so enamored, so elated, so heart wrenchingly invested, and realize you finally know what it feels like to be fully alive. And that's the moment you know you've found it. Your passion. 


Thank you for being a White Buffalo and spreading your goodness, Kelsey. 

Follow her lovely every day life on Instagram (@sheinthemaking).

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Much love + buffaloes,

Kendall